Article by Dee DeWitt, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

In our world today, we’re on the move all the time … one activity after another, always one more appointment to get to, one more errand to complete … and when we stop we’re exhausted mentally and physically.

 

Constant activity and movement are our default modes, if not with our bodies then at least with our minds, with our attention.  Even when we are sitting still, most of us we have the television on, or we’re on the computer checking email and Facebook, or we’re texting friends on our cell phones.  We are always on, always connected, always thinking, always talking.

 

There’s no time for stillness.

 

Even when we’re in line for something, or waiting at a dental appointment, or on a plane – we often get antsy, and search for something to do.  Some of us will have our mobile devices, others will have a notebook or folder with things to do or read … and still others will fidget.  

 

Being still isn’t something we’re used to.  And it comes at a cost: we lose time for contemplation, for observing and listening … and seeing God in the world around us.  We lose peace. Read More »

Posted on 30 January, 2010 in Balance, Happiness, Simplify
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Article by Dr. Les Hollon, Pastor, Trinity Baptist Church, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

Family.  When you hear the word “family,” what do you think and feel?

 

I’m convinced that family strengths can continue to strengthen us throughout our lives. What enables the family positive to remain positive in our lives?  The key is to accept “the blessing” and live “the blessing” …

 

I’m also convinced that “unfinished family issues” will play themselves out until we deal with them.  How?  The key is intentionally to live beyond “the family shadow” … 

 

When I am working with engaged couples, in premarital counseling, we talk through the foundational issues that can form a lifelong covenant for a successful marriage.  Among the five practical issues is our family of origin:

 

•”What are qualities from your first family you want to build into your married family”?

• “What are the family traits that you want to shed”?

• “How do you answer these questions about your fiancé’s family”? Read More »

Posted on 24 January, 2010 in Finance & Family, Happiness, Spirituality
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Article by Dee DeWitt, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

Most likely, everyone knows how destructive viruses can be to our computer.  Virus protection is important to keep our computer healthy and working as intended.

 

Yet many times, we’re not so careful when it comes to protecting our own ourselves … our own minds.  Destructive, negative thinking can have effects that are every bit as devastating as a virus is to a computer.

 

The more serious of these thoughts can lead to mental health problems such as loss of confidence, mild or moderate depression, self esteem issues, and a distorted perception of ourselves.  Science has shown that there is a link between physical and mental well being and positive attitudes in life.  When we are happy and content with life and our thought processes are working correctly our brain releases endorphins, which is our brains’ way of dealing with pain and making us feel happier.  Our brain also releases Gamma Globulin to strengthen our immune system and another chemical called Interferon which combats viruses, infections and even cancer.

 

So how then do we fight destructive thoughts and protect ourselves in order to stay mentally and physically healthy?

 

One answer is to simply make ourselves aware of our own thoughts, and recognize when action is needed so that our own destructive thoughts won’t lead to a downward spiral of negative emotion resulting in mental and physical problems.  Here are four ways to control the viruses in our mind: Read More »

Posted on 19 January, 2010 in Goals, Happiness, Motivation
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Article by Dee DeWitt

 

Psychologists, scientists and philosophers agree: strong social ties are a key to happiness.  We need close, long-term relationships; we need to be able to confide in others; we need to belong; we need to get and give support.

 

Studies show that if you have five or more friends with whom to discuss an important matter you’re far more likely to describe yourself as “very happy.”  Not only does having strong relationships make it far more likely that we take joy in life, but studies show that it also lengthens life, boosts immunity, and cuts the risk of depression.

 

Many people don’t make new friends easily.  They feel intimidated, feel it’s too difficult.  So here are some strategies to try: Read More »

Posted on 13 January, 2010 in Happiness, Making the Day Count
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Article by Dee DeWitt

 

Something which motivates me a great deal is growing old with regret.  I don’t want to look back on my life wishing I had done more … things with meaning … wishing I hadn’t hurt this or that person … or rebuilding relationships with those I did.

 

Regret can be scary.

 

And the only way to live without regret is to find a way to make life truly meaningful.  So how do we do that?  How do we make each moment count?  Here are some thoughts.

 

Make life about others

One of the most important things any of us can do is to make our life about other people.  So much of our world is self-centered.  We’re brought up to believe that we’re more important than everyone else, and that we need to take care of our own needs and wants first.

 

But after a while – some people sooner than later – we realize that we feel empty.  That’s, by the way, when many of us have a midlife crisis … because we realize we’ve spent so much of our lives working to make ourselves happy … and we aren’t. Read More »

Posted on 9 January, 2010 in Happiness, Helping Others
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