Article by Dee DeWitt, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

At best … coping with the emotional and financial strains of having an unemployed spouse or significant other is difficult and highly stressful.

 

Yet at the same time, this is the very circumstance when your loved one needs your support.  According to University of Michigan researchers, a spouse’s attitude toward job hunting is a major influences the mental state of the unemployed mate.  And keeping a positive attitude both at home and in a job search can be the difference between success and failure … both in landing a job and in the success of the marriage.

 

So … What can each of us do to help our partner, while at the same time maintaining some resemblance of normalcy at home?  Couples who have successfully weathered unemployment, as well as professional counselors suggest: Read More »

Posted on 24 March, 2010 in Career, Finance & Family, Gratitude
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Article by Jeanne Tessier, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

When my marriage ended 16 years ago, my friendship network underwent drastic upheaval…

 

Some of those I’d thought of as friends who’d support me through the terrible transition of coming spousally-unglued backed away with alarming alacrity.  Colleagues whose offices were eight feet away walked by my office door without saying hello; friends who used to invite me places didn’t any more.  It seemed my phone stopped ringing, although a faithful few stayed close at hand and unexpected people I hadn’t thought of as loyal friends stepped up to see me through.

 

One day a colleague of mine asked me what it was like to divorce and I said I’d not expected to become a pariah such that people fled from my company.  She replied that she understood completely how that could happen because every time she looked at me she realized that “divorce” could happen to her and she didn’t like to think about it, so it was easier to avoid me.  I was grateful for her candor.  In time I built a new network of friends.

 

A year ago, with great heartache, I realized that I could not in conscience remain any longer in the faith tradition I was raised in, had returned to as an adult, and had been deeply immersed in for many years… Read More »

Posted on 17 March, 2010 in Career, Finance & Family, Spirituality
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Article by Dr. Les Hollon, Pastor, Trinity Baptist Church, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

My grandmother was a praying person.  Lives were shaped by how she prayed in her Dublin boarding house & in the First Baptist Church.  One of those prayers got a hold of my life. 

 

When Dad was growing up, my grandmother prayed that he would become a minister.  When she realized that he was going to be a lawyer, she began to pray that one of his children would become a minister.  While I was growing up, Dad told me the first half of her prayer but he did not convey the prayer’s second half until I was in seminary.  My response was that “It just took both of us to fulfill all of what Mamosh was praying.”

 

In light of this, when Dad passed away, he gave me the office furniture he had used in his law office.  Which is what I now use in my office at Trinity.  I’m grateful that who I am today is directly related to the worshiping influence of my family’s heritage.

 

Worship is the holy experience of encountering God.  Through worship: We pray & praise.  We yield & trust.  We love & forgive.  We sing & commit.  We give & share.  We baptize & confess.  We speak & testify.  We lead & serve.  We preach & act.  We listen & connect.  We greet & befriend.  We repent & celebrate.  We read & respond.  We gather & go.  These and more are worshiping ways for us to have the holy experience of encountering God.

 

God wants us to have times when we worship as individuals, as families, and as a congregation…

 

As we individually worship, we are shaped individually.  As we engage in family worship, we are shaped as a family.  As we congregationally worship, we are shaped as a church family.  How we worship brings all three of these together.  Worshipfully connecting our family to God allows us to:

 

1) Be shaped by God;

2) Know each other in light of how God knows us;

3) Creates the basis of trust among family members. 

 

Pastor Les Hollon

 

The LORD Calls Samuel

The boy Samuel ministered before the LORD under Eli. In those days the word of the LORD was rare; there were not many visions.

One night Eli, whose eyes were becoming so weak that he could barely see, was lying down in his usual place.  The lamp of God had not yet gone out, and Samuel was lying down in the temple of the LORD, where the ark of God was.  Then the LORD called Samuel. 

Samuel answered, “Here I am.”  And he ran to Eli and said, “Here I am; you called me.” 

But Eli said, “I did not call; go back and lie down.”  So he went and lay down.

Again the LORD called, “Samuel!”  And Samuel got up and went to Eli and said, “Here I am; you called me.” 

“My son,” Eli said, “I did not call; go back and lie down.”

Now Samuel did not yet know the LORD: The word of the LORD had not yet been revealed to him.

The LORD called Samuel a third time, and Samuel got up and went to Eli and said, “Here I am; you called me.” 

Then Eli realized that the LORD was calling the boy.  So Eli told Samuel, “Go and lie down, and if he calls you, say, ‘Speak, LORD, for your servant is listening.’ “So Samuel went and lay down in his place.

The LORD came and stood there, calling as at the other times, “Samuel! Samuel!” 

Then Samuel said, “Speak, for your servant is listening.

-1 Samuel 3:1-10 (NIV)

 

Samuel lay down until morning and then opened the doors of the house of the LORD.  He was afraid to tell Eli the vision, but Eli called him and said, “Samuel, my son.” 

Samuel answered, “Here I am.”

“What was it he said to you?” Eli asked.  “Do not hide it from me.  May God deal with you, be it ever so severely, if you hide from me anything he told you.”   So Samuel told him everything, hiding nothing from him.  Then Eli said, “He is the LORD; let him do what is good in his eyes.”

The LORD was with Samuel as he grew up, and he let none of his words fall to the ground.   And all Israel from Dan to Beersheba recognized that Samuel was attested as a prophet of the LORD.     The LORD continued to appear at Shiloh, and there he revealed himself to Samuel through his word.

-1 Samuel 3:15-21 (NIV)

 

This article was written by Les Hollon, Pastorof Trinity Baptist Church.  For more information about God and your place in His world, contact Dr. Hollon, click over to Trinity Baptist Church.

 

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Posted on 2 February, 2010 in Finance & Family, Spirituality
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Article by Dr. Les Hollon, Pastor, Trinity Baptist Church, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

Family.  When you hear the word “family,” what do you think and feel?

 

I’m convinced that family strengths can continue to strengthen us throughout our lives. What enables the family positive to remain positive in our lives?  The key is to accept “the blessing” and live “the blessing” …

 

I’m also convinced that “unfinished family issues” will play themselves out until we deal with them.  How?  The key is intentionally to live beyond “the family shadow” … 

 

When I am working with engaged couples, in premarital counseling, we talk through the foundational issues that can form a lifelong covenant for a successful marriage.  Among the five practical issues is our family of origin:

 

•”What are qualities from your first family you want to build into your married family”?

• “What are the family traits that you want to shed”?

• “How do you answer these questions about your fiancé’s family”? Read More »

Posted on 24 January, 2010 in Finance & Family, Happiness, Spirituality
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Article by Dr. Les Hollon, Pastor, Trinity Baptist Church, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

Time is a family gift. Time is a God-provided resource for us to use purposefully.  Time is a way of measuring the meaning of our lives.  Time is for love, worship, work, and re-creation.  

 

Of the 24 hours in each day, the average amount of television watched by an individual recently increased 3 minutes per day to 4 hours & 35 minutes (Nielsen Media Research).  That is more than one day per week that people sit in front of a TV set. 

Therefore, let’s talk about time, faith, and the television. Read More »

Posted on 21 January, 2010 in Finance & Family, Parenting, Spirituality
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