Article by Dee DeWitt, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

How often do you receive an email, text message, voice mail, Facebook post, or some other message?  For the sender of these messages, they are most often urgent … and always important … to them.

 

But are they important to you?  Are they helping you achieve your important work goals, or, do they pull your focus away from what is important, forcing you to react to others all day, every day?

 

It seems that every second, more communications are being sent our way.  And our normal response is to try and stay current with all of the communications.  It’s human nature to want to respond quickly … to keep our “in box” free of clutter.  So we reply to the latest communications as quickly as possible, letting others control our work lives and our schedule. 

 

And since the flow of communication never ends, we find that we spend most of our life reacting to others instead of being proactive in working to achieve our own goals. Read More »

Posted on 15 April, 2010 in Career, Productivity
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Article by Dee DeWitt, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

Most of us always seem to be in a hurry … rushing to get everything before the day is done.  And every so often, we see someone who never seems to be in a rush, is usually relaxed and not stressed … and yet always seems to accomplish all the things they need to do throughout the day.

 

This presents a question – Is it possible to never hurry, but to get everything done?

 

It seems at odds with our modern world, where everything is a rush, where we try to insert as much into every minute of the day as possible, where if we are not busy, we feel unproductive and guilty.

 

As a matter of fact, the busier we are, the more we tend to wear it as a badge of honor.  I have a five hundred resumes to review!  Really?  I have 2,000!  The winner is the person who has the most insane schedule, who rushes from one thing to the next … because obviously that means he’s the most successful or important.

 

Right? Read More »

Posted on 6 April, 2010 in Balance, Career, Productivity
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Article by Dee DeWitt, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

When we are trying to accomplish anything, most people want things to come together smoothly and quickly, with “quickly” being the operative word…

 

It doesn’t matter whether it’s reaching a travel destination, finishing a project at the office, losing weight, or learning to play the guitar. We’re taught that faster is better.  Our culture is bombarded with messages from Madison Avenue that faster is better.  Directors of our largest companies – and Wall Street overall – reward quarterly results.  They ask “What have you accomplished over the last 12 weeks?” … instead of long-term growth and stability.

 

Perhaps it’s not fair to pick on CEOs and Wall Street, because examples of “fast is better” are replete in practically every corner our culture.  We all want to see immediate returns for our efforts, and we take huge strides toward reaching our goals expeditiously.  After all, why take small steps when we can take quantum leaps?  And who would want to take the long way when it takes so … long?

 

Another perspective is that, while there is nothing wrong with desiring to move quickly, we also need a strong sense of an appreciation for taking the long way and completing things one step at a time.  Put simply … we need to realize there are real benefits – and we can be happy and content – with taking the long way.

 

Why?

 

Because many things really are meant to take some time.

 

Some things are meant to unfold on their own timeline.  And we are meant to learn things about the issue, about ourselves, about others, and what we are trying to accomplish along the way. Read More »

Posted on 2 April, 2010 in Career, Goals, Happiness
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Article by Dee DeWitt, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

At best … coping with the emotional and financial strains of having an unemployed spouse or significant other is difficult and highly stressful.

 

Yet at the same time, this is the very circumstance when your loved one needs your support.  According to University of Michigan researchers, a spouse’s attitude toward job hunting is a major influences the mental state of the unemployed mate.  And keeping a positive attitude both at home and in a job search can be the difference between success and failure … both in landing a job and in the success of the marriage.

 

So … What can each of us do to help our partner, while at the same time maintaining some resemblance of normalcy at home?  Couples who have successfully weathered unemployment, as well as professional counselors suggest: Read More »

Posted on 24 March, 2010 in Career, Finance & Family, Gratitude
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Article by Jeanne Tessier, Edited by Dee DeWitt

 

When my marriage ended 16 years ago, my friendship network underwent drastic upheaval…

 

Some of those I’d thought of as friends who’d support me through the terrible transition of coming spousally-unglued backed away with alarming alacrity.  Colleagues whose offices were eight feet away walked by my office door without saying hello; friends who used to invite me places didn’t any more.  It seemed my phone stopped ringing, although a faithful few stayed close at hand and unexpected people I hadn’t thought of as loyal friends stepped up to see me through.

 

One day a colleague of mine asked me what it was like to divorce and I said I’d not expected to become a pariah such that people fled from my company.  She replied that she understood completely how that could happen because every time she looked at me she realized that “divorce” could happen to her and she didn’t like to think about it, so it was easier to avoid me.  I was grateful for her candor.  In time I built a new network of friends.

 

A year ago, with great heartache, I realized that I could not in conscience remain any longer in the faith tradition I was raised in, had returned to as an adult, and had been deeply immersed in for many years… Read More »

Posted on 17 March, 2010 in Career, Finance & Family, Spirituality
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