If You Ever Had

Article by Malcolm Marler, Edited by Dee DeWitt


If you have ever had a catastrophic event happen in your life where everything was fine one day, and the next day your life was changed forever, you understand.


If you have ever loved someone with your whole heart and s/he died suddenly without warning and you lived in shock and numbness for weeks, months, or even years, you understand.


If you have ever had a friend or family member suffer with cancer, Alzheimer’s disease, HIV, or any other illness that caused an enormous amount of suffering for the patient and for the caregiver, you understand.


If you have ever had the hopes and dreams of a marriage crumble before your eyes even when you tried to do everything you could do to save it, you understand.


If you have ever put your trust in someone completely without reservation only to find out that you had been misled or lied to, you understand.


If you have ever been hungry, or without a home, or suddenly without a job, you understand.


If you are ever been so overwhelmed by debt that you could not pay your bills, you understand.


If you have ever pretended to be one type of person to the world when you were another, you understand.


And what do you understand if you have experienced any of these things?


You understand that there are times in your life when you need something or someone who is greater than yourself to get you through it.  You know you simply cannot do it by yourself.


You understand there is nothing left to do except to ask a greater power than yourself, “Please God, help me through this.”


And when we understand this truth, we can ask, let it go, and trust, that somehow the strength will come, and it will.



Let it go.



Thanks be to God.



“There is only one thing for us to do, and that is to do our level best right where we are every day of our lives; To use our best judgment, and then to trust the rest to that Power which holds the forces of the universe in his hands.”
-Orison Swett Marden


Malcolm Marler is Director of Pastoral Care for UAB Hospital in Birmingham, AL.  In addition to his interest in spirituality and health, he loves to identify physical, emotional, and spiritual needs of persons, then design and build programs that help meet those needs.  His warmth and humor along with his powerful message of hope and grace is his greatest strength.  Malcolm grew up in Alabama and attended Clemson University (S.C.) on a football scholarship as a defensive back where he graduated with a B.A. degree in Psychology.  He is a graduate of The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, KY with Master of Divinity and Doctor of Ministry degrees.  Malcolm lives on a lake in North Alabama with the love of his life, Mary Bea Sullivan.  He has two open-hearted, loving stepchildren, Brendan and Kiki who are both freshman in college.  For more information or to contact Malcolm, please visit www.MalcolmMarler.com.


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Posted on 20 April, 2010 in Gratitude, Making the Day Count, Spirituality
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