Wisdom Will Come

Article by Make The Days Count Contributor Chris Bennett


“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.”  This prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr may seem more familiar to some than others, but it provides an equal opportunity working toward balance and calm in our life.


Acceptance and courage are strong foundations for a healthy mind and spirit, but neither a healthy mind nor spirit can progress in life without wisdom.  When either one is broken or on the verge of collapse where do you turn for serenity?  What do you need to do everyday to move onward and upward with an honest peace of mind?


Serenity best comes from within to take a part in our surroundings.  To begin to discover such a concept one must learn acceptance.  Accept what you can not change.  You can not change people nor can you change the past.  What’s done is done.


Once you begin to accept this fact, you may be inclined to focus your energy on the present.  This is not an easy concept.  Anger, guilt and straight up stubbornness are frequent and sometimes monumental hurdles, but they are expected feelings.  


How you moderate them is up to you.  However keep in mind that it is always possible to reach out.  At first it’s terrifying to think of reaching out for help from others, yet the very act of reaching out is a part of acceptance.  And once done, we nearly always wonder why we didn’t reach out sooner.


Courage can be defined as a person’s ability to stand up to what is difficult.  Change is by far the most difficult concept to almost any person.  People like routines.  If you do not like a particular routine you may find another, but it is still a routine.  When routines become damaging, then it is time to find the courage to change, permanently.  


When you accept the things you can not change, all of a sudden things you can change become very obvious.  At this point we need to make a daily effort to reach out.  We can reach out to anyone.  It doesn’t matter who, just do not isolate yourself.  


There are many steps in this process that are different for everyone, but one concept remains steadfast for all: we cannot remain alone and expect anything to change.  Go outside to a park or go to a coffee shop, anything to be around others even if you do not talk to them.  Find the courage to break out of your shell.


The wisdom will come.  It always does.  


People are curious beings by nature, but that does not mean we are quick learners.  Everyone makes mistakes, some more, much more, than others.  If you gain the wisdom to accept the things you can not change and find the courage to change the things you can, then one day you yourself can reach out to someone who is currently in the shoes you once were.


“When you make a mistake, don’t look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.”
-Hugh White


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Posted on 10 December, 2008 in Balance, Fitness & Health
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2 Responses so far | Have Your Say!

  1. Brandon Lawrence
    December 10th, 2008 at 9:28 am #

    Chris – Nice post. It would be nice to see a follow up for more depth on reachig out. Various ways we can reach out, what to expect, people and sevices available to support as we reach out, etc.

  2. Chris Bennett
    December 18th, 2008 at 9:12 am #

    Thanks for the feedback. You have a good idea, I will try and follow up with something along those lines.

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